There’s nothing like your husband attending Britain’s biggest annual music industry awards after-show party to give you a small reality check…
Yes, last night whilst I was stuck somewhere between the routine and the ridiculous… bathing and putting our overtired son Ben to bed, so that I could catch some of the Brit Awards on tv, my music promoter husband Andy was actually there as a guest of a record label he’s been working with.
He set up his own management and music PR business about three years ago, and it’s just gone from strength to strength.
And in light of all his networking with pop stars and music industry types, it could be very tempting to suddenly feel like my day was a little bit too small and inconsequential…
And on the one hand, this may well be true… because I didn’t actually do anything very extraordinary at all yesterday.
But yet I was proudly cheering him on from the sidelines at home, recognising that his success is also, at least in part, my success as well.
Because every time I have encouraged him to keep going, or provided a sounding board for ideas, or stayed at home so that he could be released to pursue his dreams, I have contributed too.
And before you judge our marriage to be old fashioned, know that it’s always a two way street, since at many other times he has done this for me too.
Because isn’t this what love does?
It prefers someone else’s needs.
So many times this world says pursue your own dreams at all costs; don’t let anyone stand in the way of your ambitions or your success. But love teaches us a better way…
Philippians 2: 3-4 puts it like this:
‘Do nothing out of selfish ambition or vain conceit. Rather, in humility value others above yourselves, not looking to your own interests but each to the interests of the others.’
And as the passage goes on to reminds us, ultimately it is God who works in us and through us to will and to fulfill His good purposes.
And once you realise that those purposes are far, far greater than any we could dream up for ourselves, letting go of our own selfish ambitions doesn’t seem so hard to do.